Human sexuality has typically been defined by cultural traditions
and social standards according to varying time periods and regions. A brief look into any distant place or era reveals
almost anything imaginable has been observed, tried, modified, chastised,
damned, worshipped, and most of all, enjoyed.
Prevalence of accessible technology, mainly the internet, has provided a
glorious window to many once secret, sacred, ancient rituals we have come to
regard more commonly and remotely as “just sex.”
This portal has provided opportunities to explore many
exotic arenas, however, it has encouraged solitary self indulgence and fostered
seclusion. Having illuminated all kinds
of acts once kept in the dark and opened forum for enunciation of any and every
fantasy, this has virtually brought us closer while also distancing us from
each other. America’s attitude toward
sensuality lies skewed somewhere between primitive African tribal customs, hijabs
of Iran, lax European sentiments, and Amsterdam’s Red Light District. While we are blessed with freedoms many lack,
we are still shackled by paradigm of patriarchy and shielded by the veil of our
puritanical ancestry.
Luckily, Miami is bustling and bursting with a multitude of
communities, civilizations and lifestyles, and being a major city, tends to
boost open-mindedness and tolerance.
There’s nothing like erotic art to bring the human form out
for open celebration. The World Erotic Art Museum - 1205 Washington Ave, Miami Beach has
offered it’s private collection for visual stimulation since 2005. For a slightly more interactive experience,
browsing any adult store provides in the very least amusement and hopefully
insight and arousal. It always piques my
interests to see peruse the shelves for latest state of the art novelty items. Most stores come with an eager sales staff,
willing to explain how their products work .
The Naughty Rooster - 1671 Alton
Rd, Miami Beach is one of my favorite spots to browse, most likely because
they are one of few shops that cater to my latex fetish! Also, while you’re there you can pick up
tickets to any of Miami’s monthly fetish parties! I always considered it a compliment when
people said I was a freak, and this is where the freaks come to get down! For the inquisitive and curious, these events
provide a positive atmosphere, void of judgement, where anyone can come to witness
the uninhibited play and explore in their own comfort zone.
Fetish Factory has been throwing parties in South Florida
for 18 years! They have hosted the some
of the most exclusive avant-garde affairs in the country featuring world
renowned entertainers and acts.
Although FF has hosted their bashes in the Magic City in the
past, they are based in Fort Lauderdale where their store-front is located at
855 East Oakland Park Blvd, Fort Lauderdale and their events can be held at
various bars and clubs anywhere from South Beach to Boca.
A number of similar soirees have sprung up over the years
with the same motives including Electrolust
in Hollywood hosted by Josepher Ringleader, Submission
in South Beach hosted by Robert Frost, Legion
and The Kitchen in Miami. The
distinguishing factor that separates them is that Fetish Factory enforces a
strict dress code policy in order to attend.
This is to maintain an aesthetic and communal environment where guests
will be at ease. Tickets are $20 at the
door, with the proper attire of rubber, leather, vinyl, uniforms, Victorian,
kinky drag, fetish glam, or anything corresponding the the particular party’s
theme. The admission price is
comparable for any fetish event, with advanced tickets available for half and ¾
price.
“So tell me what’s your fetish?”
“Well, it’s hard to say because I like pretty much
everything.”
“Okay, well, what’s weird, that you really like, or not
normal?”
“Well, I don’t know, because I don’t consider anything I
like to be abnormal.”
The conversation then moved to ass play and bestiality with
two of the participants heralding the joys of the first as another disagreed and
one admitting she has enjoyed pornography showcasing women interacting with
dogs, and another openly admitting she would engage in such activities but only
if the dog was willing and initiated it.The male speaker who professed he didn’t deem anything off limits
previously, adamantly declared he would never consider sex with an animal, with
much applause from his friends.
SO! Miami! Before we jump right into talking “dirty” walking
around your personal fantasy, we should talk about the things I think are important
precursors. One of the things that
initially impressed me with all of you was the amount of respect I witnessed you
display for each other, and for yourselves regarding intimate
interactions. This is the first and
foremost building block of any positive relationship, no matter how casual or
serious it may become. Considerate communication
is the best tool you have to understanding and key to building anything with
real substance. To correspond
effectively in a meaningful way should also include honesty. First, be honest with yourself, know your
feelings, boundaries, and limits. Then
tell your partner! No one should be
expected to be a mind-reader. One of the
best ways to bond with anyone is to talk about what you like, what you don’t
like, what you want, can’t stand, and what you could and couldn't offer. Any fetish “player” has a safe word to indicate when they need
their partner to stop the session because they have had enough. It’s always a good idea to know what is safe
and what isn’t in any situation.
My hope is that this can be an interactive column where
anyone can feel free to share and inquire. I’d love to hear from everyone face to face if you see me out and about
or via email or Facebook. The first
things I’m curious about are what FETISH means to you, and how important is
sex?
Your feedback is encouraged! Plus more information, any
questions or concerns regarding any of the above topics is available by
contacting me saltedcheeks@yahoo.com
or Shawna Shotts on Facebook.
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